Sex is a vital part of our lives, so relevant and cannot be ignored. Sex should not be, but it is (usually) the most vital issue at the beginning of relationships between couples. Sex is a very serious matter that requires attention and consideration. About 90% of grieves and conflicts in relationships are sex related. It is either one partner (in a relationship) is sexually not up to the game or he/she is just too busy with work/business thereby depriving the other of attention –especially in the area of sex.
Pornography is a creative activity (writing or pictures or films etc.) of no literary or artistic value other than to stimulate sexual desires –Wordweb Dictionary. Couples in relationships sometimes agree to engage in pornography for the purpose of stimulating themselves (after a stressful and busy day) for a pleasurable marital duty. The truth is: men are more prone to engage in pornography than women. Most men, as a result of their polygamous tendencies might find solace in pornography. This usually happens due to the inability of fund or time to finance or service extra marital relationships. Pornography is the preferred, available and cheaper alternative in this respect.
But the fact is that pornography is not only about pleasure but also of serious evil. It is highly addictive and getting addicted to it could be very dangerous –a wider way to jeopardy. Unlike getting addicted to narcotic substances which destroys directly the user; pornography goes many steps further. It does not only destroy you but also your nucleus family and could also spread its tentacles to other families as well. It does not actually help satisfy your sexual drive but broadens it. So when you go after other people’s spouses you pose a threat to jeopardize the well-
Pornography is related to another evil called masturbation. This happens when pornographic visuals materials stimulates the body to the point of discharge. It could be pleasurable and more desirable than sex itself but the evil is: it puts your spouse in a position where he or she is sexually less relevant to you. By masturbation you tend to desire more pleasure in making out with yourself than with your spouse.
Pornography dominates your entire mind of thinking. It is a destiny killer because it contaminates the heart against Godly/divine connectivity. As a man thinketh, so is he. It is a tool by which the enemy chastens against your beliefs and faith. There is nothing in it to prosper you with in any manner other than temporary satisfaction of sexual/maniac desires which keeps returning. Spiritually, it is an endless pit and getting out could be difficult.
There is way out for you: human counseling don’t usually work in relation to sexual issues. The good news is: there is God that has “human chips”. When we sink in sin, it is because one part of us is faulty and we may not identify it. It is like dropping a cell phone into water. If you are lucky to have it still functioning, it would no longer display according to the commands on its keys. Even the phone would no longer have control of itself. It might start switching off abruptly. Sometimes (for reasons unknown) humans also do “snap” and begin to indulge in sins like pornography in a manner beyond their control.
The first step out is the most difficult: to desire abstinence from a highly pleasurable and desirable habit. The most difficult enemy to fight against is “self”. The secret to go about fighting is in searching and finding reasons (within) why it has become a must to drop the habit. The next step is to take it before God in prayers. Open your mouth and confess deliverance regardless of how desiring and addictive the habit has become. It does not matter if you are still indulging in pornography while you pray to God against it. Don’t give up; continue to confess your deliverance. The Lord God almighty who manufactures unseen human chips, who sees the commitment and sincerity of your heart will begin to work deliverance upon your spirit, body and soul. You will begin to find inner strength for resistance. The body desire will try to resist you; but resist him.
You don’t need to go to any pastor confessing that pornography is your sickness. It’s a “Self Enemy” only which your “will” can kill. You must desire your deliverance. If you could desire deliverance from pornography; your problem is already solved above half. Stand before God with a meek heart and accept it (the habit) as sin and weakness. Make no excuses for it. Don’t give up praying against it no matter how deep you are into it. Engage more in the reading of the word of God (Bible). Read the Bible like you read your literature so that you can make quotes like you did with “Julius César” and “Othello” because the purpose of reading is to understand. If you can fight your own part of the battle, leave the rest to God and you will witness as the tentacles of pornography loose its grip on you.
Peradventure you are asking “how do I know”. I have been there (trust me) –‘the skeleton in everyone’s secret cupboard’ and there is nothing to be ashamed about because this article is one of my victory trophies and certificates. God delivered me. He replaced the “sinful chips” in me and He can do the same for you.
God bless you in Jesus name.
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